Ok, now you are just rude and pissing me off.
People are odd sometimes and just plain stupid at other times.
Years ago my personal life was a mess, failed relationships and so on. It was a long time ago, like 20 years ago long time ago. Since then I have improved that part of my life. Unlike some folks I tend to learn from my misjudgments. I have been fortunate to get over my past. I sure wish other people could make that leap.
A few years back I was having lunch with a former coworker. I was no longer with my longtime employer and he had returned after a venture into working as a contractor. During our lunch he thought it was appropriate to mention to a fellow lunch companion the number of failed marriages I had. I found this awkward at best. I found this really rude since he claimed to be a friend of both my wife and myself. I later asked him if he could perhaps get over my past, since I had managed to do so, and perhaps he might move on as well?
This was 8 years ago. Last year while playing golf with him, he opted to go there again. Explaining to me, after I asked him how this was even appropriate on any level, that it was just his sense of humor. Really, you might want to look up humor and see how it applies.
Here is the deal folks, people make bad choices, sometimes they actually recover from them. They move on to have good lives with a happy home. They are not the punch line to your sad version of life.
Do I seem annoyed? Damn right. I am. A few months ago, I almost died. I got sick and it pretty well sucked. My wife, yes, my wife, was there to hold my hand, my friends were there to hold both our hands. During this, I quit smoking; so for God’s sake, quit asking me if I am still not smoking. I get that it was a bad choice to start and I get more than any of you, how stupid it would be to start again, give me some credit.
I know that you are just wondering; but it really does come across as annoying and pretty much you feeling superior.
So today I went to a luncheon at a local Tech school. There was this dude I have known for a number of years. He runs a local Engineering company in town. I said, “Hey there, how are you?”
He responded with “So are you and your wife still together?”
Here’s a thought dude, lose the really bad haircut, Captain Kangaroo. And go screw yourself.